An interesting write up about the benefits of talking it over! Appeared on Bangalore Times, The Times Of India Bangalore: 2010 Oct 15
Talking is key to our existence. As we are social beings, most of us are accustomed to conversing with our family, friends, colleagues and classmates. But at times, people tend to become reserved and keep their problems to themselves. Men especially tend to find it hard to discuss issues that are bothering them, whereas women are known to open up to friends about their lives. Research says that trying to deal with everything by yourself only stresses you further. Having a tight network or support system can, in fact, be beneficial to your health.
Some people are better at communicating than others. Whether you’re one of them or not, it’s vital to share your feelings. Even if the person cannot offer a solution, talking about it makes you feel better. You’ll realise you’re not alone.
At times, people get overwhelmed when things stress them out. It might seem like you’re on a downward spiral and losing control of your life. At this point, getting a different perspective can help. Someone who isn’t part of the problem will be able to give you an unbiased opinion or offer a solution you hadn’t thought about.
Everyone wants an empathist. A little bit of empathy makes you feel better and also shows that the other person understands your point of view. A sympathetic listener could also remind you that your situation, however hard it may seem, will improve.
Having a friend, a family member or a lover to talk to is important. He or she will be able to know about your situation and can guide you accordingly. Talking helps overcome emotional difficulties like depression and mood swings. Your mate can then be there for you if he or she thinks you are getting too depressed or negatively affected by your problems.
If you find it hard to confide in someone in your circle, talk to a counsellor. Or find someone who you’d feel comfortable with. Talking to a psychologist doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It’s better to get some help before your problems affect your physical and mental well-being.
